Terre Haute Times
When I went back to college to pursue a journalism degree, I was already married with two children.
It was the year 2000. I had been married for a couple years with a child from a previous relationship, Emily. She was finishing Kindergarten. Alex was one- year -old ---and suddenly, I felt it was time to go back to college.
Let me stress this now --- this was the exact moment I realized the marriage was not working. My husband did not adjust with the new schedule. It was a great challenge to continue my education with that and the many other obstacles we faced, but I managed as best I could. I can say it was a defining moment. The marriage was indeed over.
My now-ex-husband seemed to cave with the added responsibilities, as I headed back to the classroom. He knew I loved journalism. And, although he thought he knew I also loved United States History ---that would be the final straw in our union.
I won't ever forget it --- one night in particular, as I sat at the dining room table, reading a book for a history class assignment -- which was my declared minor. My son was fidgeting. My daughter was watching a cartoon on TV. Alex was getting restless. Emily was being argumentative with her step-dad, as I was engrossed in the assigned biography written by Stephen B. Oates -- With Malice Toward None.
He approached me and demanded I put the book down. When I didn't comply, he grabbed it and tore the paperback book in half.. I still have the two separated parts of the book, which I was somehow actually able to finish reading on time.
The book was a biography of Abraham Lincoln --whom I obviously adore. And, I still think it is one of the best biographies I've ever read.Most people whom have ever known me, know I enjoy the Civil War and our 16th president a great deal.
I don't know now--- if it had been any other subject -- if the attack would have cut so deep. Not many people believed me back then, because he is not known -- even by his closest family members -- to have a temper like that, they said. And, he still denies he did it to this day. He didn't support my goals.His actions proved he wasn' t up to many other tasks.
That is just one example of what I dealt with as I tried to move forward.
Journalist, Terre Haute
Lucy Perry, 45, enjoys writing about issues in her hometown. She periodically expresses personal opinions in her blog, Terre Haute Times.
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